I find myself saying this a lot online these days, but I truly think everyone should work a year in either food service or retail. Think of it almost as de-facto civil service. America would be much better off for it.
As for Bello, I will give a sliver of grace here. When writing a draft I’ll sometimes copy something in, with a huge TK (and grawlix) & go back, get the link, & properly cite later while editing.
That’s more a defense against shiny object syndrome than anything else, and obviously needs to be corrected before shipping.
She loses me a little bit when she doubles down and cites mental illness. Had she talked about fear of failure and it’s crushing weight, she’d have had my sympathy. Heck, there are countless people that don’t want to get married but do anyway because the cake’s already been paid for, yaknow?
I wouldn’t have liked it, but I would’ve empathized.
But to then double down on the apology? Nope. That’s a hard pass from me. IMO, it cheats those battling their own demons.
I wholeheartedly agree about the food service/retail being a compulsory job experience in any service-based economy. There are people who clearly don't understand the amount of actual skill and work it takes and really make the experience awful for other people.
As for Bello--I hear you. I showed up with compassion and wanted to offer grace. Anyone can make a mistake! I've cited sources incorrectly, I've put an endnote at the end of a sentence but forgot to put opening or closing quotes. It happens! I could believe that she messed up with the pregnancy bit because of fear/feeling of inadequacy, plain and simple. It's still a bad move but hey, at least she admitted her mistake.
But yeah, it's the mental illness part that kills me. Just admit you made a mistake! Just cite your sources! How are we supposed to trust the rest of it when she's just been caught in a lie again?
I find myself saying this a lot online these days, but I truly think everyone should work a year in either food service or retail. Think of it almost as de-facto civil service. America would be much better off for it.
As for Bello, I will give a sliver of grace here. When writing a draft I’ll sometimes copy something in, with a huge TK (and grawlix) & go back, get the link, & properly cite later while editing.
That’s more a defense against shiny object syndrome than anything else, and obviously needs to be corrected before shipping.
She loses me a little bit when she doubles down and cites mental illness. Had she talked about fear of failure and it’s crushing weight, she’d have had my sympathy. Heck, there are countless people that don’t want to get married but do anyway because the cake’s already been paid for, yaknow?
I wouldn’t have liked it, but I would’ve empathized.
But to then double down on the apology? Nope. That’s a hard pass from me. IMO, it cheats those battling their own demons.
I wholeheartedly agree about the food service/retail being a compulsory job experience in any service-based economy. There are people who clearly don't understand the amount of actual skill and work it takes and really make the experience awful for other people.
As for Bello--I hear you. I showed up with compassion and wanted to offer grace. Anyone can make a mistake! I've cited sources incorrectly, I've put an endnote at the end of a sentence but forgot to put opening or closing quotes. It happens! I could believe that she messed up with the pregnancy bit because of fear/feeling of inadequacy, plain and simple. It's still a bad move but hey, at least she admitted her mistake.
But yeah, it's the mental illness part that kills me. Just admit you made a mistake! Just cite your sources! How are we supposed to trust the rest of it when she's just been caught in a lie again?